Your libido has vanished and sex is uncomfortable.
And you’re wondering if this is just how midlife sex is supposed to feel.
Before you resign yourself to a sexless future, let’s talk about what’s really going on. Because it’s not just the hormones – your sexuality doesn’t exist in a bubble. It’s more like a delicate web where everything affects everything else:
- Your Hormones Are Changing – Estrogen and testosterone are dropping, which means less lubrication, changes in muscle tone, and a libido that’s basically gone AWOL.
- Your Mind Is Overloaded – Between aging parents, career pressure, and all of the peak life stresses that collide with perimenopause, your brain has zero bandwidth left for pleasure.
- Your Body Is Unrecognizable– Weight has shifted or suddenly appears, you don’t feel comfortable naked anymore, and you’re shopping for shapewear instead of lingerie.
- Your Relationship Has Evolved – After decades of tag-teaming parenting, you’re looking at your partner like “Hi, stranger” and feeling anxious about reconnecting.
- You’re Wrestling With Sexual Shame – All those “good girls don’t” messages and myths about older women’s sexuality have been playing on repeat in your head for decades.\
So what’s a girl to do?
Stop looking for quick fixes and start treating your sexuality with the same thoughtful attention you give everything else you care about. Let’s dive in:
Reclaiming your pleasure
Reclaiming your pleasure was the theme of our conversation with Dr. Arielle Buch-Frohlich. From painful sex to mismatched libidos, Dr Arielle delivers practical solutions with zero judgment. Your sex life will never be the same. LISTEN TODAY!
Better Sex Through Mindfulness
More lube, sexier lingerie, or scheduling intimacy aren’t going to fix your sex life. Instead, Dr. Lori Brotto’s got mindfulness techniques to help you to stop overthinking and start experiencing pleasure like you did before life got so damn complicated. LEARN MORE
One thing that never leads to better sex? Faking it.
We’ll have what she’s having. 😂 😂
IRIS
A little extra hydration Not all lubes are created equal. Many can disrupt your natural balance and cause irritation. IRIS is different – created by people who actually understand vaginal chemistry. Clean ingredients, the right pH, pure glide. GET HYDRATED
Your pleasure isn’t dead, it’s just waiting for you to figure your shit out. These resources are a great place to start.
Can’t wait to see you next Thursday.
xoxo,
Mikelle & Michelle
